My IVF story-conclusion

Hi everyone. Hope you all had a fantastic weekend.

After complaining about my current consultant, l was told that l couldn’t get my original consultant back because she had a hectic schedule and besides, it is the NHS; there were not a lot of resources available. It was turning out to be a nightmare and l was extremely stressed. To make matters worse, my cyst pain came back in full force. Obviously, the injections are meant to stimulate my ovaries to produce follicles and since the cyst is on my left ovary…….. That was why it is usually recommended to remove any large endometriomas before embarking on fertility treatments.

I couldn’t sleep on my left side anymore. Infact, l could hardly sleep anymore. I had to resort to using an old friend-paracetamol -to cope with the pain. I went in for another scan a couple of days later and found out that the consultant had been changed! I began to feel better. This new consultant(another man and the 3rd doctor so far) was really nice and compassionate. He was quite gentle during the transvaginal scan but had another shocker for me as well. My follicles were growing very well-ironically, the ones on my left ovary were bigger than those on my right- but he discovered that my left ovary was not really accessible because of the cyst and might constitute a problem during the egg collection stage. Once again, l was floored. How come this wasn’t mentioned during my earlier scans? Why wasn’t this problem anticipated and the cyst aspirated before IVF? To be honest, l had lost confidence in the hospital at this stage. There were just too many mistakes and not enough answers.

By now, the ovary stimulation stage was almost at an end after 2 weeks and l was lectured on how to use a hormone injection which will mature and release the eggs and must be used 34-38 hours before the eggs were collected. I had taken time off work to prepare for this stage. I took the injection @12 midnight on a Saturday and had nothing to eat from 12 midnight the following Sunday because the egg collection was on a Monday. We got to the hospital bright and early and my hubby went off to produce his sperm sample to be used for fertilisation. I was wheeled into theatre for the egg collection and it was all over in an hour or so. I had sent my hubby on some errands so he wasn’t available when l came to in the recovery unit. I was transferred to another room where other IVF patients were, the only privacy we had were curtains demarcating the cubicles but one could still hear through them.

What happened afterwards was so surreal but l could still remember it as if it were yesterday. I could hear a doctor telling a patient in the next cubicle that 8 eggs were collected. I remember thanking God for her and thinking l would be happy with just 4. Then the doctor came into my cubicle and glanced at her notes. I remember looking at her face and thinking that something was not right. Maybe it was because she hestitated, maybe it was because she then asked for my hubby and suggested we wait for him. I just knew there was something wrong and l could just feel hot tears burning in my eyes. She went away then and l tried calling my hubby on the phone but it kept going to voicemail. The doctor came back again after about 20 minutes and asked for my hubby again. I told her he was on his way and she can just go ahead and tell me the news. She started by apologising and said there was NO eggs collected. I had 7 follicles; they could only retrieve 3 and they were EMPTY sacs. I honestly couldn’t remember much after that. My memory of that day was perfect up until that terrible moment. I vaguely remember my hubby walking in a few minutes later and the next thing l knew, l was lying down in my own bed at home. My hubby told me much later that l didn’t say anything; l just kept crying. It was fortunate my parents were in London for the summer then though staying with my sibling; my hubby was so scared that he went to pick them up to come talk to me.

Anyway, that was my lVF experience. There were a lot more that happened afterwards but they are just too painful to bring up. All l can say is God was there despite everything and my hubby and l came out of that experience stronger and better than ever. We give God all the glory. We had a followup appointment at the hospital where the consultant attempted to answer all our questions but honestly at that point, l was past caring. I only became irritable when he (consultant) kept trying to convince us to try donor eggs which of course cost quite a tidy sum of money(£12,000). I knew then that l wouldn’t be able to control my words and actions so l told my hubby we had to leave. I started acupuncture soon afterwards and because my acupuncturist has been referred by top lVF specialists in London, he is extremely knowledgeable about fertility treatment and was appalled by the level of treatment l received. He said that there are blood tests that can be done to find out if eggs are actually growing in the follicles and of course, the cyst should have been removed.

Thanks for reading.

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12 Responses to My IVF story-conclusion

  1. Caligal says:

    Again, I can totally relate to most of your experience as I have just gone through it. Just finished my first IVF and got my result 6 days ago. Unfortunately, the pregnancy test was negative. This was the most difficult thing I have ever done in my life. The side effect from the medication (daily injections and progesterone) was maddening. I have cried so much in the past 3+ weeks, and I honestly have no more tears to shed. I know we should not ask God why? I know God’s time is the best time. But, I sometimes find myself asking God why? Why am I going through this much pain? Why should a process that should be so natural cause me so much pain? I am an emotional wreck. But, I have to pick myself up and try hard not to allow the past 3+ weeks get the best of me. One day, I will tell my story. But for now, I will continue to wait on The Lord to do that which no man can do. My prayers and thoughts are with you and all women who continue to wait on The Lord for the fruit of the womb. Stay blessed!

    • My dearest sis, l was just tearing up after reading your comment. I can’t find the words to say how sorry l am for what you must have gone and are going through. I know first hand how devastated you must feel; lVF can be soul draining and depressing especially if there is a negative result at the end of it.
      However we can never give up no matter how bad it may seem because l know that as long as God is still on the throne, we will overcome this debilitating disease and experience the joy of motherhood by His Grace, Amen. He hasn’t forgotten us, sis and His Word is always true. Stay blessed.
      PS- I came across some endo drugs online late last week and will make a post on them in a couple of days. They are apparently excellent for endo and the reviews have been amazing- unblocked Fallopian tubes, decreased cysts, endo adhesions and scars( therefore less pain) and the ultimate, natural pregnancies! The major two l want to write about are Serrapetase and Nattokinase. Please read about them. God bless.

  2. OmoMakun says:

    My sister I have to commend you for sharing such a personal story. Its not easy. Don’t be too hard on yourself though, I know its hard not to. It is well with you. Looking at it as an oustider, I would say that the level of care by the medical professionals was seriously lacking. I pray that the next time around, God would direct people to you, that will geniunely care from start to finish in Jesus name. And I pray the results will be more than what you expected!

    • Thanks so much for the prayer, sis. I really appreciate it. I know God will do it in His Own time .
      It’s just that time (between His Promise and it’s fulfilment ) is uncertain to us as people and it can be hard to keep holding on to one’s faith. Honestly, it’s just by His Grace.

  3. Caligal says:

    Thanks so much for your words of encouragement. I really appreciate it. As difficult and heartbreaking as this process has been, I try to take comfort in the fact that this wasn’t the time for my husband and I. We have to keep it moving and continue to pray that our story will change soon. Thanks for sharing the info about the meds. I will research more about it. Thanks again!

  4. kayme says:

    I just wish I could be beside you now to hug you and tell you all will be well. I am humbled by your forbearance and faith. I will keep you in my prayers. Take care sis, your prayers will be perfected and answered very soon by the grace of God.

    • Thanks so much, sis. I really appreciate your comment and prayers. You have brightened my day with your words. May the Good Lord meet you at your point of need this year and beyond in Jesus Name, Amen.
      God bless you.

  5. jcsgrl says:

    Whoa! I’m still shocked at your story. You mean not even one egg? How are you still even standing? You’re not human abeg. You must be high on Gods grace. I wish I can have such strength. God will cause you to smile soon

    • My sister, na God o otherwise……….. The acupuncturist said it’s very rare that there were no eggs. He couldn’t believe the hospital didn’t carry out tests to determine if eggs were growing in the follicles or not.
      I just give God all the glory. The fact that l’m still functioning is all down to HIM and l know all these will turn into an amazing testimony very soon.
      Stay blessed, sis.

  6. Kelly says:

    Going down the IVF egg collection route in a few weeks.
    Last time was harrowing. I had 14 eggs collected, but no success & no freezing. What a waste!
    Now going through a self funded cycle ( not cheap ooo).
    I have PCOS & endo to contend with.
    God is my strength.
    Could you please let me know your acupuncturist as I want to try some of this for this cycle as well (London/UK based).
    Gods continued strength as we walk down this route. It will surely end in praise.

    • My sister, 14 eggs?!! God is indeed your strength. I completely feel your pain but l believe God is still on the throne. By His Grace, this one will be successful and you shall have an amazing testimony to share in Jesus Name, Amen. Will keep you in my prayers from now on.
      I use the London Acupuncture Clinic, 126, Harley Street London. They also have offices based in Chiswick, Ealing and Windsor. Check out their website. I normally use Daniel Elliot, the Director or Inga.
      Stay blessed sis and keep in touch. You are not alone.

  7. drnsmusings says:

    Hmm! I am short of words.

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