Hi everyone. Hope you all had a good weekend
Low libido is a very sensitive issue for women with endometriosis and for a Nigerian woman like myself, embarrassing to talk about. This could be because as a married woman, you are not meant to talk about your marriage to outsiders talkless of your sexual problems. Simply put, low libido is low sex drive. Between chronic pain, painful sex, taking medication and hormonal therapies, undergoing surgery and dealing with a variety of emotional issues, it is not surprising that sexual desire is affected.
Like l mentioned in an earlier post, l was diagnosed 2 months into my marriage. Naturally, any sexual intimacy took a back seat. I couldn’t even bear to be touched and this would be hard for any man especially a newly married one. Anytime l had any respite from the pain, l just wanted to be left alone in peace. My body felt as if it had been in a boxing ring so any pain free time was pure bliss and l guarded it fiercely because the pain could return at any moment and it was back to the boxing ring. The act itself didn’t make it any easier. Dyspareunia also known as painful sex, is common when endometriosis affects the tissue behind the uterus at the top of the vagina. Frankly, with the level of pain and stress l was going through, l wouldn’t have cared if l never had sexual intimacy with my husband for the rest of my life. I didn’t think of the effect it had on him; l expected him to understand. Afterall, l was the one going through the pain and operations. I failed to realise he is only human too and it was grossly unfair not to take his feelings into consideration. For a while, it affected our marriage until we eventually sought counselling in church.
Now with acupuncture and counselling, things are looking up in that department. I would like to advice every endo sufferer out there who might be going though the same issue to seek help. Don’t suffer in silence. This is one of the reasons l started this blog. It has been almost 8 years since l was diagnosed and l’m yet to know of any Nigerian or African women with this disease until l started this blog( apart from Nike Oshinowo). My mother, aunties, cousins, friends, colleagues, acquaintances etc are all unaware of this terrible disease. Most of them just assumed l have fibroids and these are well educated women. While l am in no way trivialising fibroids( my heart goes out to the women who are battling this condition), there’s more awareness of this in Africa yet little or nothing about endo. My African sisters, please seek help. You have nothing to be ashamed of
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